I never really understood the need for a Doula until we met Carla.
From Day 1 she felt like a friend, a friend with extensive knowledge and willingness to support me (a first time mum) through something I was pre-empting as terrifying.
Her kind, warm, grounded nature instantly put my mind at ease about the birth.
Carla introduced us to techniques for us as a couple to use during labour making me focus on the positives, and supporting my husband to support me.
Carla went above and beyond for us, completely changing my mindset, and ensuring our needs as a couple were met so that birth was a positive and beautiful experience for us both.
During labour a doula’s role is so important. We were given the opportunity to be together as a couple and enjoy the experience whilst everything else was taken care of, from snacks, the lighting in the delivery suite, to reminding us both of things that work to make birth as relaxing and smooth as possible, and more importantly, so encouraging and being a hand to hold if you need it. They think of it all so you don’t have to.
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Carla has been the most tremendous help to me and my husband. Despite the current lockdown with Covid, Carla has been available 24/7 with support, information and care. Days I have been lonely she has called and boosted my moral. When I have had any issues or questions she has messaged back with so much helpful information that we wouldn’t have found ourselves. Although it has been sad not to be in the same room with Carla for our meetings, we have had many very successful Zoom meetings where we were able to do everything we would have done face to face. Seeing her physically through a screen has been so helpful and we feel that the whole process has been easier because of Carla. The anxiety of pregnancy and birth has been minimalised because of the encouragement and patients and humour of this wonderful Doula. Eleanor
I clicked with Carla via text before we even met! She has a lovely, caring motherly vibe with a great sense of humour thrown in. It was great to have someone to discuss anything and everything with prior to the birth and Carla was constantly researching things for me, checking in on me and giving me loads of great information. I'm used to having to do all the research myself, so it was great to have someone else doing it too!
I was very upset to find that due to the pandemic restrictions, I had to choose between Carla and my husband to be my birthing partner. This was unacceptable to both me and Carla and we joined forces and campaigned for it to be different. The end result of our efforts was being given an amazing midwife who, along with Carla, a second midwife and my husband gave me an incredible, medication free home birth.
Carla has helped me so much in the transition from 2 to 3 children. What would have been a very tough time has been eased by her visits to provide sanity for me, entertainment for the older children, and an extra pair of hands. We all look forward to her visits and the children ask me often when she is next coming! Having moved areas while pregnant and having no family nearby, I don't think I would have managed without her. Highly recommend both Carla and postnatal Doulas for helping to make the postnatal period enjoyable and manageable!
This local Blog goes some way to explaining what Doulas do and it features me!
I feel as a man, you try and shoulder alot of the weight and responsibility of the birthing process alone, so as not to worry my wife whilst she is going through labour. Doulas are instrumental in that, giving you a shoulder to lean on and reminding me of things that I could do to help. Whether that is different massage techniques, seating positions or poses that assist with the birthing process. Our labour went on for in excess of 24 hours, so something as simple as staying and holding my wife's hand whilst I went for food was a massive benefit. To removing the guilt and worry from me, and giving my wife someone she feels so close to comforting her. I cant thank Carla enough for all she has taught me and everything she did :)
Carla would check in every day with us both, with encouraging thoughts, and was always there if we had any questions, and would always deliver, with thorough knowledge and extensive research behind the answers.
We consider ourselves as a couple to be a strong team, but Carla just amplified that. A Doula is a fantastic thing, and Carla was worth her weight in gold.
My husband and I initially sought a doula to help provide emotional support during a long tried for pregnancy which followed a devastating miscarriage. Our pregnancy was high risk due to heavy bleeding up until 16 weeks which led to us being constantly anxious. On top of this my husband had a kidney transplant and the March 2020 COVID-19 lockdown hit. To say our stress levels were high would be an understatement! Carla was a rock of constant support and reassurance during a time when the NHS was too stretched to provide the emotional support we needed. We started with weekly zoom calls where Carla would research every query on our behalf and helped us form a thorough and informed birth plan in preparation for our home birth. When the birth arrived, Carla was firm when necessary to ensure our birth plan and choices were respected. She worked fantastically with the midwives to use alternative methods including clary sage oil to help contractions at the pushing stage and respecting the “rest and be thankful” stage. But best of all, Carla delivered a 5 star back massage continuously throughout my labour which was simply wonderful and exactly what was needed at the time! Following the most perfect home birth, our son required assistance with his breathing and I suffered from a retained placenta and blood loss. Carla remained calm, assisted the midwives and called for ambulances as necessary. She helped liaise with the medical staff to ensure the safe transfer of our son and I whilst she stayed behind with my mum to tidy the house and deflate the birthing pool. Whilst our birth story had a bit of a whirlwind ending, the handling of the situation demonstrates Carla’s skills as a doula and my husband and I still regard the actual birth itself as totally calm and beautiful; it was simply the most perfect event. We will forever be in debt to Carla. Thank you for giving us the honour of having you as our doula and hypnobirthing teacher. You have given us the most priceless gift; a beautiful, calm and serene home birth which we will treasure forever. - Emily, Sam and Baby Frankie
After staying with my family for support as our baby girl had reflux, we came home as my parents needed to self isolate and my partner was still working. Carla had already been an incredible support to our family and having her continue with us on our journey has been invaluable.
Being able to video chat and message is so useful, even if just to get reassurance and information. It's lovely having someone you feel is like a friend with specialist knowledge and training. Being an anxious mum it's very reasurring to know that additional support is there whenever it's needed. Carla goes above and beyond and we are very grateful to have someone else we trust to link in with. Her great sense of humour and kindness are just a few of her lovely qualities. Jen